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Ashes and Lent

Posted on February 16, 2016 by Sandra

When my mother died, I had an agenda you don’t know you have until someone central to your existence is gone. This was mine: • First, empty the most personal of properties, her vanity. Her lipsticks. She kept on her … Continue reading →

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Keeling

Posted on November 17, 2015 by Sandra

You think you have a handle on the grief. The loss. Until you don’t. And are keeling into the crater hollowed out before you. A knock. A jostling in an uncaring crowd. And you are falling into that gloaming darkness. … Continue reading →

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Harrowing

Posted on July 9, 2015 by Sandra

This is a link up to Alphabet Thursday, the letter H: It should have felt harrowing. Combing through her mother’s cremains. It didn’t. Because she was as focused as only one can be combing fingers through ash seeking out the … Continue reading →

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The Day My Mother Died

Posted on June 23, 2015 by Sandra

Two months into a world without my mother. Hard for me to find the words. But these words finally needed to be written: I lay sprawled across my mother’s dead body. I wouldn’t let them take her, those stiff men, … Continue reading →

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Learning How to See

Posted on April 21, 2015 by Sandra

My mother, a professional artist, who passed last Thursday, 4/16/15, was my greatest teacher–the one who taught me how to “see.” And then how to translate that seeing, to recreate reality into the transcendent of one’s own unique and memorable … Continue reading →